Do you ever dream of hot nights full of kinky sex? And when we say hot, we really mean hot. If you could use some creative inspiration and you’re looking for more passion and fire, read on for our exciting kinky sex tips.
Start slow
The tip that applies to every topic below when exploring kinky sex: start slow. Don’t go all in right away. Begin with a bit of teasing instead. That’s how you drive your partner wild. By teasing, you take control (which is essential in kinky sex) and you’ll have your partner begging for more.
The hot tips you’ll find in this article
- Blindfold 2.0
- Bondage
- Spanking
- Extra Oral
- Deep Eye Contact
- Humiliation
- Dirty Talk
- Role-play
- One, Two, Threesome
- In Public
#1 Blindfold 2.0
You probably already knew that a blindfold can spice up your sex life. But we’ve got an extra sexy way to use one. Play a punishment & reward game! Your partner wears a blindfold and sits on a chair or lies on the bed. You ask a question, for example about your relationship or about your body.
Examples:
- Where was our first kiss?
- Do I have a mole on my belly?
- What do I love most during sex?
If your partner answers wrong, you get to punish them! Try a spank, tie them up, or tease them gently with a pinch or a bite. You can also play with warm massage candle wax.
Because your partner is blindfolded, the punishment stays a surprise. But if they get the question right, they’ve earned a reward — a massage, a deep kiss, or a quick handjob or blowjob. Maybe even a few seconds of penetration…
#2 Bondage
Take control or surrender completely to your partner during this kind of kinky sex. Playing with power dynamics is incredibly sexy! With bondage, you can tie certain body parts together or hold them apart. There are cuffs, ropes, tape, spreader bars and handy starter sets that are perfect for beginner bondage lovers.
The most important thing with bondage is that you do it safely. Agree in advance on what’s okay and what’s off limits. It’s also smart to have a safe word.
Bondage techniques explained
#3 Spanking
Spanking is a practice you’ll often come across in the world of BDSM and other forms of kinky sex. It means hitting (with a flat hand), usually on the buttocks. The idea is to bring some pain to your partner. Some people find it kinky to receive the pain themselves; others find it arousing to be the one giving it. Either way, it’s incredibly exciting. You can spank with your hands, of course, but there are also special paddles for the job.
#4 Extra Oral
Oral sex is already gorgeous and sexy on its own — but did you know a few simple tricks can make it even sexier?
Tip 1: Head massage
While your partner is treating you down below, you can massage their head. Grab the hair firmly, give it a gentle tug, and alternate that with a steady scalp massage. Use your hands to subtly guide them if needed.
This is especially great for receiving oral. You can pull your partner a little closer or move slightly up or down. With oral on a penis you’ll want to be more careful — pushing your partner too deep can be unpleasant. Not everyone enjoys deepthroating.
Tip 2: More is more
A key rule in the world of kinky sex: don’t forget to use your hands during oral sex! It’s wonderful to pleasure someone with your tongue and lips, but you can’t apply much force that way. Many women love being stimulated clitorally and vaginally at the same time. So while your mouth works the clitoris, let your fingers play with the vagina.
“While your mouth works the clitoris, your fingers can pleasure her vagina.”
The same applies for men. A blowjob isn’t complete without hands. Use your mouth and a hand together to stroke and suck him simultaneously. Want to give him an unforgettable peak? Use your other hand to stimulate his balls, anus or prostate.
#5 Deep Eye Contact
In point #1 we talked about kinky sex without sight — but the opposite is also true. Deep eye contact is incredibly arousing and can be very kinky.
Looking each other in the eye during sex is intensely intimate. And if someone is treating you orally, eye contact adds extra heat. You both get to see exactly how the other is enjoying it. But eye contact gets really kinky when you lock eyes at the moment of orgasm.
“Look at each other at your peak.”
#6 The Secret Dome
After the intense eye contact of tip #5, we’re going the other way: complete anonymity. The Secret Dome is a portable bondage box that fits under your bed and surrenders your partner entirely to you.
Your partner steps into the box and only certain body parts come through the openings. No face, no voice, just sensation. That anonymity removes the brakes — what you can’t see often feels more thrilling than what you can.
Choose the Secret Dome La Niche for a luxe experience, or go for the Secret Dome Bukkake with extra openings. Storage? It slides right back under the bed.
#7 Humiliation
People often say they fall for bad guys. But what if you have an amazing relationship with a sweetheart? Then it can be incredibly sexy to be naughty in the bedroom every now and then. Humiliation isn’t for everyone, though, so it’s important to talk about it thoroughly first. Then you can ease in with dirty talk — but make it really dirty.
During humiliation play, you can say truly filthy, crude or mean things to each other that you don’t actually mean. If this isn’t your cup of tea, you probably can’t see what’s arousing about it. But if it’s your thing, the very thought of it gets you going.
“During humiliation play, you say filthy, crude or mean things you don’t actually mean.”
In a relationship there’s lots of love and respect, which can sometimes make sex feel a little tame. That raw, dirty, kinky sex usually doesn’t happen with a steady partner. So set the loving roles aside for a moment and really go at each other! You probably wouldn’t normally call your girlfriend a slut or your boyfriend a loser with a tiny dick. But with humiliation play, that’s exactly what you do — not because you mean it, but because the feeling of humiliation can, somehow, be deeply arousing.
Examples
- Using degrading words like slut, slave, weakling, failure, loser
- Giving your partner orders to follow
- Spitting
#8 Dirty talk
Dirty talk gets really arousing when you can be specific. Instead of just saying how good it feels or how attractive your partner looks, make your dirty talk more vivid by describing things in detail. You can also describe what you’d like to experience next.
That said, dirty talk only works if you’re both into it. If your partner isn’t into super-explicit comments and you launch into a graphic monologue, it can backfire. But if you both enjoy it, it’s a brilliant addition to your kinky sex.
#9 Role-play
Maybe humiliation from point #7 goes a bit too far for you, but you’d still like to slip into a different role now and then? Then role-play is your thing! During role-play you can become someone else entirely. Let your fantasy run free. Struggling to come up with something? Worried your idea is weird? Don’t be — there’s no shortage of role-play ideas to borrow.
#10 One, two, threesome
If you’re both open to it, an extra person can add serious heat to your sex life. If you’re a hetero couple, first decide whether you want to invite an additional man or woman. What’s allowed and what’s off-limits? A threesome involves a bit of planning. Make sure you talk through everything beforehand.
#11 In Public
Ever heard of PDA? John Legend even has a song about it — Public Display of Affection. In other words, showing your affection in public. Sex in places where you might get caught is a thrilling, kinky idea for many people. That tension brings extra arousal. Popular spots: a bathroom stall, the car, the woods or the cinema. For most people the idea is sexy, but they don’t actually want to get caught.
“You know I love it when you’re loving me, sometimes it’s better when it’s publicly. I’m not ashamed, I don’t care who sees” — John Legend
Which kinky sex idea are you most keen to try? Let us know in the comments!