Looking to level up your oral skills and learn how to truly please someone with a penis? You’re in the right place. In this guide we tackle the question “How do you give a great blowjob?” and share six essential tips to make this intimate moment a brilliant experience — for both giver and receiver.
1. Don’t go straight for the goal
You might not expect it, but men also need time to build arousal. Start at the top and work your way down. Kiss his neck, lick at his nipples, massage his shoulders and stomach with your hands. Tease him by not putting him in your mouth right away. Kiss his inner thighs and give his bum a squeeze.
By the time you’re ready to get to it, chances are he’ll be hard and seriously turned on. And even when you do take him in your mouth, you don’t have to deep-throat him straight away. Hold him firmly, curl your lips slowly around the head. Glide your tongue deliberately over the tip while moving your hand up and down. Pick up the pace from there.
2. Mix it up
You could keep doing the same thing throughout. He’ll probably enjoy it. But honestly, that’s not the most fun for either of you — there’s so much more to a great blowjob. Curious about how to give one, or just looking for fresh ideas? It’s time to experiment with different techniques. Try softening or tightening your grip on his penis. Instead of constantly licking, suck gently. Try taking him deep into the back of your throat instead of working only with your lips and tongue.
You can also slide your tongue from the base of his penis up to the tip — like rescuing a melting ice lolly. Or use the very tip of your tongue to find his urethral opening and lightly tease it. Just don’t go too hard.
Tip! Want to make it more fun for yourself too? Try a flavoured lubricant.
3. Don’t forget his balls
A man’s testicles are highly sensitive — and often completely overlooked. That’s a shame, because they can feel amazing for the receiver. Just holding them can be exciting for him. From there, you can gently massage them and tug very lightly. Don’t squeeze or pull too hard — that can be excruciating.
If you want to go further, try kissing or licking them. Sucking is a big favourite for many men. Take a testicle into your mouth or suck on the skin. While you’re doing that, you can keep stroking him with your other hand.
4. Hit the sensitive spots
Beyond his balls, there are other areas that deserve more attention. Below are a few moves and tips that are guaranteed to land.
- Pay attention to his frenulum. The frenulum is the thin strip of skin that connects his foreskin to the head of his penis. Run your tongue up and down this band for fantastic stimulation.
- The underside of the head is also highly sensitive. Believe it or not, this ridge has a name — it’s called the corona. You can reach it by gently pulling his foreskin back. Then run your tongue along it.
- Not every man enjoys this, but plenty do appreciate perineum massage. The perineum is the patch of skin between the scrotum and the anus. (You have one too — yours sits between the vagina and anus.) If this area isn’t off-limits, place your finger or fingers on his perineum and rub gently. Add a bit of pressure for extra sensitivity.
5. Make eye contact
Men are looking for intimacy during sex too. Sex is already intimate, of course, but you can make it even more so by making eye contact. You don’t have to stare at him constantly — just exchange the occasional glance. Looking at him also lets you see how he reacts to your oral attention. Pay attention to the sounds he makes, too.
Tip! Looking at him helps you read his reactions. Listen out for the noises he makes too.
Men generally make sounds during sex, just like women. Soft moans or heavy breathing are good signs. And you can use sounds and a meaningful look to let him know you’re enjoying giving him a blowjob — chances are that’ll turn him on even more.
6. Avoid these things
Now that you know which blowjob tips really work, it’s worth knowing what to leave out:
- Using your teeth. Men are protective of their bits — and the penis is so sensitive that teeth can quickly feel painful. Keep your teeth tucked away unless he specifically asks otherwise.
- Sucking too hard. For most men, hard suction is a no. The head of the penis is almost as sensitive as the clitoris. Aggressive sucking can feel uncomfortable or downright painful.
- A dry mouth. Men prefer a warm, soft, wet mouth — much like the feeling of a vagina. A dry mouth means more friction, which is exactly what you don’t want. You want him to glide. If you can’t generate enough saliva, reach for a bit of lubricant.
- Being too rough. A firm grip is fine — that’s not a problem. But yanking, squeezing or aggressive sucking won’t feel good. It’s still a sensitive part of his body, and he’d like it to be treated with respect.
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