Tying up your partner — or being tied up yourself — can be incredibly arousing. If you love experimenting or fantasising about bondage, you’re far from alone. Here are six bondage positions guaranteed to grip your imagination.
Why bondage feels so good
Why do we find bondage so thrilling? First of all, it’s incredibly sexy to fully surrender to your partner. Equally, it’s exciting to tie your partner up and know they trust you completely with the literal ropes in your hands.
Through bondage, you and your partner can play with control and trust — and explore the unknown together. Bondage often involves limiting other senses, like sight. A partner who’s restrained or can’t see what’s coming next will feel intense arousal from the unknown… what’s going to happen? Where will my partner touch me next?
Always agree on a safe word before you start, check in regularly, and never tie anything so tight it cuts off circulation.
#1 The Hogtie
In the Hogtie, you bind the feet and hands together behind the back while the receiving partner lies on their stomach. As you can imagine, they can barely move, leaving you free to do whatever you like. If you’re a knot expert, you can use rope, but there are also dedicated Hogtie sets that make it easier. This position isn’t really about penetration — it’s all about hands and mouth.
“The Hogtie isn’t really about penetration.”
#2 Hands Up
For this position, you tie your partner’s hands above their head and together. For example, over a door, to a sturdy ceiling beam, or to a really solid cupboard. They can only stand in this position. Wobbly knees because you’re driving them wild are extra hot. If you tie them facing a door or wall, they can’t see what you’re doing — even better.
#3 Bondage Spread Eagle
The name says it all — spread away! In the Bondage Spread Eagle, the receiving partner lies on a bed with legs as wide as possible. You can use ropes anchored to either side of the bed, or a spreader bar. Tie the hands above the head too. They can’t go anywhere. With the legs wide, you can reach everything as the giving partner. They have no choice but to surrender completely and let you do your thing… You’ve got access to every sensitive spot on the front of their body, so make the most of it. Tease your partner and drive them wild!
“You’ve got access to every sensitive spot on the front of their body — make the most of it.”
#4 Hot Seat With Blindfold
In this position, you secure your partner to a straight-backed chair. Tie their feet to the chair legs and their hands behind the backrest. You can pleasure your partner orally or, if it works for both of you, ride them. Because they can’t move, you do all the work — and the cruel twist? Your partner can’t even touch you! This will only ramp up their craving. Add in a blindfold to play with the senses. Use feathers, warm massage oil and cold ice cubes to tantalise their sensitive skin even more…
#5 Bondage Exposed Eagle
This position again gives you delicious access to your partner’s most sensitive spots. They lie on their back with their legs tucked under them, hands tied to their ankles, bundled up like a small parcel on your legs. You can penetrate them deliciously and access their chest. It’s also a brilliant bondage position for oral. They can’t move, and having their freedom to writhe taken away only makes it hotter for them.
“The Bondage Exposed Eagle is a really sexy position for oral sex.”
#6 Bondage Standing Doggy
This variation on Standing Doggy makes it extra hard for your partner to stay upright while you take them from behind. So you’ll need to hold them firmly by the hips to make sure neither of you topples. They can lean forward to make it easier — and that allows for even deeper penetration.
What’s your favourite bondage position? Share it in the comments!