Want to boost your chances of orgasm or looking for a more intense peak? Then an anal orgasm might be just the thing for you. Your anus contains countless nerve endings that can be stimulated in many different ways. In this article we’ll show you how — but first, let’s explain how an anal orgasm actually works.
About the anal orgasm
Let’s be honest right out of the gate: the idea of an exclusively anal orgasm is actually a bit of a misconception. That might surprise you, but it’s not so strange when you think about it. Even though your anus contains plenty of nerve endings, those nerves aren’t primarily designed for orgasm. The vagina, clitoris, glans and prostate, on the other hand, are.
Research suggests 94% of women reported having an orgasm during anal sex.
The preparation: lube
Make sure your fingers, anus and any sex toy are always well coated with anal lube. Remember that the anus doesn’t naturally lubricate itself the way the vagina does. To prevent uncomfortable friction and make insertion smoother, lube is essential. Choose a thick lube that stays slick for a long time. There are special anal gels available that are perfectly tuned to the sensitive skin around the anus. Be careful with silicone-based lube, though. If you’re using silicone toys, avoid gels that contain the same material. Silicone can react with itself, which can damage the surface of your toy. Safety first, always.
Tips: anal orgasm for women
You’re unlikely to reach an anal orgasm from anal stimulation alone. That’s why it’s important to also stimulate your vagina and/or clitoris. See what feels best for you. The clitoris or vagina can be stimulated brilliantly with your fingers, a clitoral vibrator or mini vibrator, while your other hand massages your anus or works a toy.
Clitoris, vagina and anus together
Your orgasm is likely to be more intense when you stimulate even more — clitoris, vagina and anus together. You can try it with your hands, but that won’t always be easy. Don’t worry: there are toys specifically designed to stimulate all three erogenous zones at once.
Double dildo: A double dildo is a toy with two dildo ends. One end is usually narrower than the other, which makes it ideal for double penetration. You insert the thicker end into the vagina and the thinner end into the anus. With one hand you can stimulate your clitoris, while the other moves the dildo. Lie on your back or your side for a comfortable position.
Triple-stimulation vibrators: When you want a toy you don’t have to move yourself, or you’re after more than just penetration, a triple-stimulation vibrator is a great choice. Many of these resemble a rabbit vibrator but with an added anal stimulator. The stimulator might include small anal beads or a ridge that massages the outside of your sphincter.
Tips: anal orgasm for men
Anal sex is for men of every sexual orientation — gay or straight. There are plenty of ways for men to enjoy anal stimulation. Adding it can give your orgasm an extra dimension, especially when you stimulate your glans before and during the peak. During solo time, you can use an anal toy to reach an intense orgasm. Discover new sensations and enjoy the ride.
Prostate massage
As a man you’ve probably heard of it — or even tried it: prostate massage. Your prostate is a small organ that produces and transports seminal fluid. The prostate is highly sensitive and you can feel it about 5 centimetres deep in your anus, on the front (belly) side. This spot is also called the P-spot. A prostate massage can lead to intense, blissful orgasms. You can try it with your fingers, but there are also special prostate toys that make massaging the prostate much easier.
Prostate toys
Prostate dildos: Prostate dildos have a curved tip designed to easily massage the prostate. You can move the dildo up and down yourself to find the sweet spot.
Prostate vibrators: When you want more than massage alone, there are special prostate vibrators. As well as moving up and down, the toy delivers vibrations that stimulate the prostate even further — making your anal orgasm even more intense.
Want to choose a model yourself? Browse the prostate stimulators — all the prostate dildos and vibrators in one place. Mind the dimensions: you don’t want to end up with a prostate toy that’s too small or too big.
Anal toys for women and men
You can use your fingers to stimulate your anus, but your nails may be too sharp for the delicate skin of your sphincter. So preferably use a toy made for the job. Don’t use toys that aren’t designed for anal use. They generally don’t have a flared base, which means they can slip inside. There are several anal toys that are safe to use:
Anal Training Kit
With this box of goodies you’ve got everything you need for your most exciting journey of discovery, all at once. From lube to butt plug to anal beads. Best of all, the box even includes a handy little guide for your first time.
A butt plug
A butt plug is inserted and doesn’t need any further movement. A butt plug is great when you enjoy a feeling of fullness, or when you don’t want to actively play with the anus. A great option to start with is a butt plug set, where the different sizes let you progress step by step.
Anal beads
When you want to play more actively with the anus, anal beads are a better fit. A string of anal beads consists of (sometimes increasingly larger) beads. Using anal beads can gently and pleasurably stretch your sphincter.
Tip! Feel your anal orgasm coming on? Slowly pull the beads out — the beads will stimulate the nerves in your anus in a deliciously satisfying way.
Anal dildo
Got a bit of experience with anal play already? Then you can absolutely use an anal dildo. Go for a model that’s no thicker than 3 centimetres in diameter. That’ll usually be plenty. You can move the dildo slowly up and down to stimulate your sphincter, or make small circles to massage the inner walls of your rectum.
Tip! Pick up the pace as your orgasm approaches.
Vibrating anal toys
Vibrating anal toys are perfect when you don’t necessarily want to insert anything but still want to play with your anus. You can hold an anal vibrator against your sphincter to activate the nerves there. You can also insert it if you wish. Beyond the pleasant sensation, the vibrations have a relaxing effect on the muscles in and around your anus.
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