Whether you’re trying anal for the first time or you’ve been at it for years and want some fresh inspiration, this article is for anyone curious about anal sex. It’s always fun experimenting with new positions, and as you probably know, not every position works well for anal play. Here are some of the best anal sex positions to add to your repertoire.
Anal positions: take it easy
Got little or no experience with anal? Read this article packed with anal sex tips for beginners first. With anal in particular, it’s important not to push yourself into ambitious positions too soon. Your body needs to be as relaxed as possible for everything to feel good and go smoothly.
1. Lap dance
This position is perfect for both beginners and the more experienced. It’s medium difficulty, and the receiving partner gets to control how deep things go — so as the giver, you don’t have to worry about going in too hard or too fast. Plus, you can kiss and look each other in the eye, keeping things lovely and intimate.
Tip: Have your partner sit on a chair or the edge of the bed. On a chair, the receiver can move up and down easily with their feet on the floor. On the bed? Kneel and lift yourself up and down.
“The lap dance is perfect for beginners and pros alike.”
2. Spooning
Spooning could’ve been designed for anal sex — it gives the partner behind complete control over depth and pace. And if it’s your first time, being held in your partner’s arms can help you relax even more. With this position, neither of you has to work hard, so you can both fully enjoy each other.
Tip: Slip one or two pillows under your hips for an extra lift. It makes penetration easier. Have your partner enter from behind. Their hands are free for other hot spots — making this an extra intimate, extra lovely position.
3. Flat doggy
A great position when you don’t want to go too deep. Did you know anal penetration doesn’t need to be deep at all? Most of the nerves in the anus sit in the first 5cm. With flat doggy the receiving partner lies on their stomach with legs together. Your bum looks fantastic in this position too, and your partner gets a great view with every thrust.
Tip: If you’ve got a curvier bum, you might find it easier to spread your legs slightly so your partner can fit between them. It creates a bit more room.
“Your bum looks absolutely brilliant in this position.”
4. Missionary
Plenty of anal positions could use a more personal feel — a lot of them have you facing away from each other, which makes things less intimate. This one is a great choice when you’re looking for closer connection. It lets you and your partner keep eye contact throughout.
Try this: Have your partner enter you in missionary. Press your knees against their hips to control how deep they go. Slip a cushion under your hips to angle your pelvis perfectly for penetration.
5. Doggy style
Doggy style is the classic position for going deep. You can stay on hands and knees, or lower your upper body to the mattress and rest on your chest (as in the image), allowing your partner to penetrate even deeper and reach the A-spot. The A-spot is a small area sitting just a bit deeper than the G-spot (around 2cm), between the bladder and uterus, sometimes called the “female prostate”.
Tip: Switch between different angles to find what feels best. You might prefer keeping your back straight, arching it, or rounding it down.
6. Spread Eagle
Big fans of going deep? Spread Eagle is the one for you. You also keep eye contact in this position. Lying on your back, bring your legs up towards your shoulders and place your hands behind your knees. Your partner comes in from above, between your legs, using their hands for balance.
Tip: It can also feel great to wrap your legs around your partner. That way you can help set the pace, and lifting your hips slightly gives them better access.
“Intimate eye contact plus deep penetration — yes please.”
7. The Lotus
Now, back to a romantic classic. The Lotus is a wonderfully intimate anal position. It’s a bit like the Lap Dance, but you both sit on the bed or floor. Climb onto your partner’s lap and lower yourself down. You get all the intensity of anal combined with the romance and closeness of the lotus pose.
Tip: Sit against the head of the bed and use the headboard with your hands to help yourself move up and down — it takes the strain off your legs. The sofa works really well for this same reason.
8. Reverse cowgirl
Reverse cowgirl is the most overrated vaginal position out there. The view is great for the partner underneath, but for the rider it can feel impersonal. Try it anally, though, and a whole new world opens up. You’re in complete control of how deep your partner goes. Have your partner lie on their back. Straddle them facing away and slide down at your own pace. Let them stimulate your clitoris while you give them an extremely hot view of your back.
Tip: Doesn’t feel right when you lean forward? Or the angle feels off? Try leaning back instead. Rest your arms on their chest or on the headboard. Want to go faster and harder? Pull your knees up and balance on the soles of your feet rather than your shins.
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