When erect, the average adult penis measures somewhere between 13 and 14 centimetres. Even so, lots of men feel a little self-conscious about their size. Here’s the good news, lads: even if you’re slightly below average, you and your partner can still have absolutely brilliant sex.
Sex positions when he’s on the smaller side
Plenty of partners will tell you that size really isn’t the be-all and end-all. It’s not the length of what you’ve got, it’s what you do with it that counts! The positions below help you make the very most of every centimetre.
The Crab
In the Crab, he sits on his bottom with his legs apart. His partner climbs onto his lap, facing him, leans her body backwards and supports herself with her arms behind her back. This position allows for deep penetration, and the angle is perfect for G-spot stimulation. Move slowly together until you find a rhythm that feels good for both of you.
Pair it with a sex toy
A cock ring or a couples’ vibrator are excellent toys to combine with this position. A couples’ vibrator is worn by the receiving partner and stimulates the clitoris and the G-spot at the same time. The flat end that goes inside leaves plenty of room for the penetrating partner, who also gets to enjoy the vibrations. A cock ring can help maintain a firm erection and delay orgasm.
Spread Eagle
In this position, the penetrating partner doesn’t lie flat on top but holds themselves above their partner with arms straight. With her legs raised — she can also wrap them around his body — the vagina feels narrower, which can make his penis feel bigger. His pubic bone also rubs against the clitoris during sex, adding extra stimulation. He can also penetrate quite deeply here. If you’re worried about size or that your partner isn’t feeling enough, this position is a winner.
“His penis can feel bigger in this position, and his pubic bone rubs against the clitoris for extra stimulation.”
The Up-And-Over
The Up-And-Over makes use of every centimetre. He can thrust firmly in this position, and her vagina feels tighter because her legs rest on his shoulders. He’s on top and controls the rhythm and depth. Her clitoris also gets attention during the Up-And-Over. A vibrating cock ring can add even more stimulation: the vibrating bullet sits right against the clitoris, increasing the chance of orgasm.
Flat Doggy
A twist on a classic. In this position, she lies relaxed on her front and can focus completely on the penetration. He leans over her body, using his arms and knees for support. She can tilt her hips slightly back to make it easier for him to slide in.
Tip — this works brilliantly for anal too
This position is also great for anal sex! Honestly, having a slightly smaller penis is no disadvantage at all when it comes to anal. The anus is much narrower than the vagina, so preparation is key. You’ll need plenty of lube, time for the muscles to relax and good communication. For anyone trying anal for the first time, a smaller penis can actually be a real plus.
“Honestly, having a slightly smaller penis is no disadvantage at all when it comes to anal.”
Leaning Cowgirl
The Leaning Cowgirl is a variation on the classic Cowgirl. The partner on top places her hands behind her body for support. This makes the vagina feel slightly tighter, so both partners get more sensation. The angle of penetration is also lovely for G-spot stimulation. A mini vibrator or wand massager can be a delicious addition, taking care of her clitoris and helping her get there.
Loveseat
In this position, she sits on the edge of a bed, sofa or table. She spreads her legs wide and gives her partner all the room to penetrate deeply. He has a wonderful view and can use his hand or a sex toy to tease her nipples or clitoris.
Tip! Want to combine this with a bit of foreplay? It’s also brilliant for oral sex.
What’s your favourite sex position? Let us know in the comments.