Yes, women can squirt. It means releasing fluid during orgasm — also known as female ejaculation. The volume usually isn’t the same as a man’s, but a properly drenching climax is absolutely a thing. With the right G-spot stimulation and a willingness to fully let go, squirting becomes possible. Hasn’t happened for you yet? Read on for five practical tips and you might be next.
How to squirt: follow these 5 steps
1. Relax
A good prep is half the work. To squirt, you need to clear the mental blocks. If you’re not properly relaxed, it almost certainly won’t happen.
So set things up in advance. A towel to catch the fluid, plenty of lubricant, a clean space and trimmed nails are the basics. Put on some chill music if it helps you (or both of you) settle into the right headspace.
2. Empty your bladder
Make sure you’ve been to the loo before you start. A squirting orgasm gives the same sensation as needing to wee.
Why? Because squirting uses the same muscles. That makes it harder to relax fully. Knowing your bladder is empty makes it much easier to surrender to the feeling.
“A squirting orgasm gives the same sensation as needing to wee.”
3. Build arousal
To squirt, you need to be in the right mood. The more turned on, the better. Hold off on touching the vagina for a bit and focus on the other erogenous zones first: your neck, breasts, nipples, lower belly and inner thighs.
If your partner is helping you squirt, take your time over foreplay and don’t rush. Skip the fingers and the clitoris for now. Kiss the area around the vagina first and slowly work your way in. Build the tension so the anticipation does the heavy lifting.
Discover each other’s erogenous zones with this exercise (Sensate Focus)
4. Try a “regular” orgasm first
Once you’re sufficiently aroused, you might want to come “normally” first. Women can have multiple orgasms back-to-back, after all.
A “regular” orgasm brings plenty of strength, fluid and relaxation to the area down below. All of which can make a follow-up squirting orgasm much easier to reach.
5. G-spot stimulation
To get anywhere near ejaculation, the G-spot needs stimulation. You can use either your fingers or a sex toy.
With fingers
Use your middle and index fingers, palm up, and slide them in slowly. The G-spot sits about 5 cm inside the vagina. On the upper wall, roughly level with the clitoris, you should feel a small ridge or thicker area.
Found it? Use both fingers and make a beckoning “come here” motion, gently across the spot.
“The G-spot sits about 5 cm inside the vagina.”
When climax is approaching, slot your middle finger behind your index finger so you can apply a bit more pressure. The orgasm will start to build. The feeling can mimic needing to wee — but as long as your bladder is empty, you won’t actually wee.
Keep going. The sensation passes quickly, and the further you push through it, the better it gets. When you (or your partner) manage to surrender to the feeling, female ejaculation kicks in.
Right before orgasm, push your pelvic floor muscles outward rather than clenching them — this dramatically increases the chance of squirting.
With a toy
A sex toy can reach your G-spot easily. Most G-spot vibrators have a curved tip designed precisely to target and massage the G-spot.
Just like with fingers, focus on the sensations, push past the urge-to-wee feeling, and bear down with your pelvic floor right before orgasm.
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The steps in a nutshell:
- Find your G-spot.
- Stimulate it with fingers, your partner’s penis, or a dedicated toy.
- Keep going until you feel an intense sensation deep inside.
- Push your pelvic floor outward as you climax.
- Squirt, squirt, squirt.
“Worried about soaking the bed? No problem — there are waterproof sheets that keep your bed dry.”
Frequently asked questions about squirting
Is squirting the same as weeing?
No, squirting isn’t the same as weeing — even though it feels that way at first. The fluid released during squirting is produced by the Skene’s glands, which sit around the urethra. It’s clear, almost odourless, and chemically distinct from urine. Studies show traces of urine can be present, but it’s genuinely a separate kind of ejaculate.
How much fluid is released?
It varies hugely between women and between sessions. Some produce just a few drops, others drench the towel beneath them. Volume says nothing about how intense your orgasm was or how “well” you squirted. Hydration, arousal level and how full your bladder was all play a role. Always lay a towel down so you don’t have to think about the mess.
Can every woman learn to squirt?
In theory, yes — every woman has the anatomy for it. In practice, not everyone manages it. Some squirt regularly, others never, and both are completely normal. Pressuring yourself or your partner is counterproductive: tension blocks the relaxation you need. Treat squirting as a fun bonus, not a goal. A satisfying orgasm doesn’t require a fountain.
Which sex toys work best for squirting?
Toys with a curved tip designed to hit the G-spot tend to work best. Think G-spot vibrators with a clear bend, or toys whose curved tip mimics the come-hither motion of your fingers. Rabbit vibrators that stimulate the clitoris simultaneously can help too. Choose a quality silicone toy and use plenty of water-based lubricant for comfortable stimulation.
What if I feel the urge at the crucial moment but hold back?
Very common. The sensation feels so much like needing to wee that your body automatically tenses up to hold it in — and that tensing prevents the ejaculation. Try to consciously push through the feeling, as if you really were going to wee. It feels scary, but it’s the key. Practising solo can help you explore that threshold without any awkwardness.
Did you (or you both) manage to squirt after reading these tips? Or do you have a tip we missed? Let us know in the comments.