Sex toys are usually associated with solo play. But these days there’s a whole world of toys designed to be used together, at the same time. A perfect example: the wildly popular couples vibrator. So how do you actually use one? Read on.
Sharing the pleasure with a couples toy
One of the most popular couples toys is the duo vibrator. This vibrating toy is designed to be worn during penetrative sex, so both partners can enjoy the vibrations.
How is it best used?
- Internal arm for G-spot stimulation
- External arm for clitoral stimulation
- Designed to stay in place during penetration
- Vibrations both partners can feel
A couples vibrator has both an internal and external arm, both of which vibrate. The slimmer arm is inserted vaginally and stimulates the G-spot, while the external arm rests on the clitoris. The internal arm is shaped to leave plenty of room for penetration — meaning your partner gets to enjoy the vibrations too.
Did you know… penetration with a couples vibrator inserted can feel even better for him, since the vagina sits a bit tighter around him?
EasyConnect and We-Vibe
We-Vibe is the brand that put the couples vibrator on the map. The We-Vibe Sync is a couples vibrator with an adjustable hinge so the toy can be tweaked to fit any couple perfectly. A good fit is what keeps it in place.
EasyToys also has its own brilliant couples toy. Toys from EasyConnect pair with your phone — through the EasyConnect app you can control the toy yourself and even build your own vibration patterns.
Which other couples vibrators are out there?
Lelo Tiani / Ida
The Lelo Tiani is a luxury toy that works similarly to the We-Vibe couples vibrator. What sets it apart is the rotating function of the part inserted vaginally. The included remote also features SenseMotion technology — meaning the toy responds to the way you tilt or move the remote.
Also great for solo use!
Satisfyer Pro 4 Couples
Another clever toy from Satisfyer: the Satisfyer Pro 4 Couples is also designed for use during sex. What makes it unique is that the external part is an air-pulse stimulator — pressure waves stimulate the clitoris while the internal part keeps both partners going with vibrations.
Couples vibrators work brilliantly for lesbian couples too. One partner can wear it inserted while the other straddles them, sharing the vibrations.
Tips for using a couples vibrator
Use lube
For some, sex with a toy takes a bit of getting used to. The whole point is that you both enjoy it. To keep things as comfortable as possible, we recommend lube — it makes penetration smoother. Just check the material of your toy first. Silicone toys don’t play well with silicone-based lubes, so go with a water-based lube instead.
Try different positions
Most couples vibrators are designed to stay in place in any position. In practice, though, not every position feels equally good with one inserted. So our advice: experiment to find what works best for you.
Tip! Doggy style works really well with a couples vibrator. The receiving partner can hold the toy in place if needed. Missionary and cowgirl also work nicely.
Other sex toys for couples
The toys above stimulate both internally and externally. But there’s plenty more out there made specifically as couples toys.
Pair vibrator
A pair vibrator is a real all-rounder — it can be used in seven (!) different ways during solo and partner play. Use it as a vibrator to penetrate your partner, use the slim tips for nipple or clitoral stimulation, or wear the ring around the penis as a cock ring while using the toy for double penetration.
Strap-on dildo
The strap-on dildo is a toy worn — with a harness or briefs — by one partner, creating a “penis” they can use to penetrate the other. There are even double strap-ons that pleasure the wearer at the same time.
Straight double-ended dildo
A straight double-ended dildo is long with a penis-shaped or rounded end on each side. Both ends can be inserted vaginally or anally, in you and your partner, at the same time.
Flexible double dildo
A flexible double-ended dildo is similar to a straight one but made of a flexible material — so it can be used to double-penetrate one person (anal and vaginal at the same time) or to penetrate both partners simultaneously.
Vibrating cock ring
A vibrating cock ring is a classic that’s brilliant for partner play. The wearer slips it on during sex while the vibrating part rests on the clitoris. The ring helps make the erection firmer and longer-lasting, while the vibrating section adds extra clitoral stimulation.
Sex swing
A sex swing is a piece of kit you can use together for sex in a whole new range of positions you couldn’t otherwise pull off. Read more on using a sex swing here.
Long-distance sex
Sharing pleasure isn’t always possible in person. These days it’s surprisingly easy to “be together” from a distance. EasyConnect toys connect to your phone, and through the EasyConnect app the toy can be controlled from anywhere in the world.
- Let your partner control your toy from across the country (or continent) via the app
What do you think — would you try a couples toy? Or have you already? We’d love to hear.